High Value Women Relationship Coach
Gaslighting is a term that has gained popularity in recent years, but it is not a new phenomenon. The term gaslighting comes from the 1944 movie “Gaslight” where a husband manipulates his wife into thinking she is losing her sanity. Today, the term is used to describe a form of emotional abuse where a person […]
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A day came when his bad behavior reached a point where he told me that I can leave this relationship if I want because I kept on nagging, remaining threatened by his EX. I had invested a lot of emotions and time. My behavior was totally doormatty, so I had no courage to leave him. Finally, he insulted me to an extreme level due to my behavior and I naturally had to stop contacting him to save whatever was left of my self-respect. I stepped back naturally and went into No Contact with him. I wasn't aware of terms like leaning back, no contact, games, pullaway, etc.
I went into a depression and tried finding a solution to my problem on YouTube, and there I found Greta's videos. I watched them all and during this time Greta used to answer free questions on her Whatsapp. She made a video on my situation, here is the link I joined her High Value Women Facebook Group which she started and some of the moderators, along with women like us were the initial members. I started writing on the Facebook wall about my issues and I was given advice by some of the women to move on and find another guy who would value me more than him. Some even called my guy a "narcissist!" The story changed in 2 days from there, when I asked Greta on her Facebook live about my issue and she said that I am behaving like a complete doormat. The same man who is treating me like his servant would treat me better if I changed my behavior, but she said that the chances of saving my relationship were very small because I had made HUGE mistakes. Still, she would try to turn it all around. I kept on posting on the wall and then came the angels who helped me. The HVW group moderators were my Guiding Angels. They held my hand and brought me out from the miserable condition I was in. There was a vast difference in our time zones, as we live in the different parts of the globe, but I would wait for their comment on the wall and then take a step ahead. Gradually I started to behave in a way as trained by Greta and the moderators. I was taught not to do the wrong things, and to improve on my own personal behavior. I made major changes in my thought process, my mindset, my communication skills and most importantly I remained patient, waiting for good days to come. Once again he said he was confused as to whom he would date. This time I wished him good luck in his life and said I'm happy for you and that he can have a good life ahead. Dang! He chased me like hell!
My boyfriend, who realized this slow progress in me, started wondering if I was the same woman. He started talking to me very politely and started to ask me what was it was that made me so cool and calm. My boyfriend reads Robert Greene books and he is coached too. I never knew that until I became High Value myself. He told me this, but I never told him that I have an army too.
Gradually he started respecting me so much and treating me completely differently. The Ex went out the window. He started treating me like a queen and the he calls me a queen naturally many a times in his texts. I turned my relationship around 180 degrees. It had already died before I was coached by Greta.
Some rules I always followed were:1. I TRUSTED IN GRETA'S TEACHINGS WITHOUT ANY DOUBT. I WAS ALREADY IN A MESS. 2. WHENEVER THE MODERATORS TOLD ME NOT TO DO SOMETHING, OR TO BEHAVE IN A PARTICULAR WAY, I DID THAT BLINDLY, NO IFS AND NO BUTS. 3. I STAYED IN THE PAINFUL SITUATION WITH PATIENCE, UNDERSTANDING THAT THE SAME MAN CAN TREAT ONE WOMAN LIKE A DOORMAT AND ANOTHER LIKE A TOTAL QUEEN 4. I TOOK TOTAL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE WAY I WAS TREATED AND ACCEPTED MY MISTAKE. IT WAS MY PROBLEM, NOT HIS.5. NEVER DID I MISS A SINGLE LIVE OR VIDEO THAT GRETA MADE AND I TRIED TO BE THE BEST STUDENT TO HER AND MY MODERATORS .
So, ladies, before blaming a man and calling him names, look deep within yourselves. Look at the mistakes that we are making as women. Instead of leaning back into our own energy we lean forward and make a huge mess. Trying to change a man doesn't help. Improving ourselves helps. I won because of Greta's teachings and my moderators who showed me the correct path. Thanks to you all for your support and love,
