WhyWhy men cheat

Why men cheat

 

The signs a man will cheat are present a long time before it actually happens. The problem is the vast majority of women don’t see it. Complacency in a relationship is the fuel that stokes the fire of infidelity. Once were married to a guy and the wedding party is long over, women begin to think, “ok now I can nag, control, act crazy and spoil this man” they also think that they can stop making an effort to control their emotions and dress well (yes that matters, men are visual). All of this coupled with your man and your kids become your whole life, is mould that creates a cheating man.

 

You’re not hanging out in the places you did when you were single, you’re not carving out time away from everyone to go on solo trips, have solo time, even if its just in another room. Your identity has become that of a wife and mother. And I know the vast vast majority of women will argue with me here, “there’s nothing wrong with that” , yes there isn’t, but when you spend your life revolving yourself around the needs of others (being the wife, being the mother) you are failing to nurture and grow the person your guy fell in love with to begin with. You’ve actually transformed into a totally different person without realising it, and guess what he doesn’t love this new woman.

When a man falls out love with a woman, when things become complacent, that is when they start to look for the spark, the buzz they had when you kept them on their toes, elsewhere.

 

The spark is lost when you stop being a challenge, when you stop keeping him on his toes, when you stop being the woman he needs to impress to keep. If you’re insecure and projecting, nagging, doing the same thing everyday and have no life that makes him wonder whether someone else might sweep you away from him, youre creating a vacuum that bring in space for him to cheat.

Keep your energy the same, be the same person he married. Be fun, have your life outside of him, outside of your kids and be an individual. Women who never fall out of love with themselves, never have men fall out of love with them.

Sunsu Bee / April 7th, 2022 / Uncategorized