Relationship Coach - 3 surprising things that will make him care about you more not less

1. Mirror his lack of attention. As a relationship coach, we have noticed that if you are really into him mirroring his lack of attention can be a good move. You use to hand out a lot, go on dates. Talk for hours on a phone. And now he is barely texting, calling or paying any attention? Don’t do the thing where you say: oh baby what’s wrong? What’s going on, I haven’t heard from you in a while, you aren’t calling as much, is everything ok? I missed you so much… nooo will not get you anywhere… he will just see you as behaving needy and clingy and instead of calling you more and giving you more attention he will just simply step back and enjoy he’s ego stroke… ok she’s chasing me now… let’s see what else I can get from her? Therefore instead of giving him more attention, step back yourself. He says good morning. Reply morning, he says how was your day ? Take your time in replying and say good thanks…  now if he finally stars to think what’s going on ? I want to know about her.. he will pick up and call… and will ask you to hand out… the most important here is not to become rude… many times in relationship coaching sessions we have people say it isnt working and that they are becoming distant. The reason for that is they are acting rude towards them, isntead you should have a more aloof approach like well I’m not getting attention so my interest is fading away…  rather than an angry approach well you didn’t text me so I’m punishing you… the aloof approach shows I’m bored and don’t have time for this which will make him pursue you more as you are a challenge now. There as an angry approach shows you care to much, you’re tooo keen which might make him step back…
If you are confused about being a challenge for a man. Please check my video right here.
And by the way ladies not all men behave like this… there are some good men out there somewhere over the rainbow… but if you live in NY, London or LA i highly recommend to write this advice down.
2. Let him be your provider, protector! Majority of time men don’t end up with women that build them up. So if he is earning less than you, perhaps he is much younger earning less but you see a lot of potential there. And you think you can help him build him up, teach him, invest into him. And in return he will love you , adore you , appreciate you and never leave you?? Stop! Before it’s to late and you are crying a river telling the whole world how he stayed at your house rent free for years, that you paid for all the dinners , his university degree, the holidays and invested in all his business ideas. While he has dumped you for a girl who’s not rich, is 5 pounds overweight and has a child from a previous marriage… yet he buys her gifts and flowers from the money that you invested into him and walks proudly by her side calling her his girl! How does it even makes sense has he lost his mind and eye sight?
Well no he hasn’t as men fall in love with women that are feminine, that they need to invest in ,teach, charm and be their hero’s..
so if you are investing into him and building him up, remember most likely you are building him up not for yourself but for someone else…
3. Have your guard up it’s when he can’t play you that’s when he is intrigued. If he says he needs space, give him extra. If he is  trying to kiss you while 5 mins before telling you he just wants to be friends. Tell him sorry I don’t kiss my friends.  If he tells he is looking for something serious and wants to get married soon don’t jump into bed with him the same night. Let him prove his words with his actions first. If his best friend says he is a great guy…. Let it in one ear come in and from the other come out. Until you see it for yourself don’t let his wing man fool you.
Matthew Sukumaran / December 30th, 2023 / Relationship Coach