Relationship Coach - Qualities a man looks for when he is ready to settle down
Men long for women that bring peace and calmness into a relationship. Yet what does it actually mean to be a man’s peace and how to make him long for your presence? Well, let’s dive into 3 strategies that will leave him craving your calming energy in this chaotic world.
Hello, lovely ladies! I’m your guide, greta bereisaite, I am a relationship/life coach and I’m here to lead you through a journey of understanding and connection.
in this video we are about to explore the captivating art of becoming a man’s peace. If you’re ready to unlock the secret to creating a serene haven for your man’s heart, you’re in for a treat! But before we start make sure to take advantage of my free goody called love that last which is available on my website and you’ll find the link in the video description below. And if you didn’t get it yet, I highly recommend you to get my book Devoted relationships which is available for sale on amazon or on my website. And the link will be down below in the description box.
And now before we start The most important thing to understand is that men that want a healthy relationship usually look for peace, men that want to play the field and use women look for drama to be entertained.
Therefore when a man is ready to settle he will choose a woman with these qualities.
1. Dont question him. Questioning him for little things continuously, can become very irritating and very annoying long term. As it shows that you do not trust him. And also are insecure in your relationship with him. Questions such as how was your day? Or did your meeting go well ( if he shared about a particular meeting ) is completely fine and even good to ask as it shows caring. Yet if you are constantly asking where are you going? Who are you going with? How does he know this person or that person and (you are just dating) …it is too much… you are not his mother and he doesn’t need to report you every single step, as it shows suspicion, insecurity and mistrust from your side.
If you live together or are married, questions such as what took you so long to come back from the gym? Or why did you take 1 hour doing grocery shopping instead of 15 mins… Show a lot of insecurity and mistrust. Also is controlling behavior. Control and being in charge are masculine behaviors. Plus on top of that the more you try to stay in control of him the quicker you will lose him. (How controlling him will make you lose him check out my video right here)
2. Don’t neg at him – as it says in the Bible better to sleep on top of the roof when be in the same room with a nagging wife. And it says that for a reason. Ladies stop nagging as it won’t get you anywhere. You will waste your energy and time and he will get irritated plus sick and tired of you. And instead of doing what you want him to do he will start to limit his time with you. If he is not doing things for you like he used to… for example buying you flowers, taking you out, treating you nice.
Nagging will not make him treat you right it will actually backfire and will make him step back. What could help in this situation is reflecting back on your own behavior and seeing are you behaving differently from back then he was sweeping you off your feet. If you are… well, that’s the answer to your problem…start to behave how you used to behave with him and he will treat you as he used to treat you. If however that is not the case, and you feel like he is just becoming a lazy bum, I would recommend setting boundaries instead of nagging. Yet there are many ways to set healthy boundaries for different types of situations and you have to make sure that you do it right otherwise this can backfire also. (I have a video for you to watch how to set the healthy boundaries and i will drop it in the description box below, or if you like some hand holding book me for one to one)
3.Emotional control is a must in any relationship with anyone. Emotional control shows maturity, good manners and tells a person a lot about you. A woman losing emotional control can be extremely unattractive not just to a man but to everyone. These are examples of a woman losing emotional control: Texting essays that involve, blackmailing, victimizing herself, blaming the other person, behaving controlling, self obsessed, and even taking physical actions . such as showing up at his house crying that he broke up with you, or posting bad comments on his social media profiles. Calling his family and complaining to them how bad he is. If in person, shouting, arguing aggressively, hitting a person, crying, begging him back, threatening, abusing, calling him names… The light versions of losing emotional control are questioning, controlling, calling non stop, texting nonstop. Ladies if you do this behavior in the first few months of dating he will either straight away make you into friends with benefits where he will just use you until someone more mature comes along.Or will simply dump you. Now what makes us lose emotional control? Usually it’s insecurities,assumptions, lack of self control and assuming that there will be no consequences for it. That perhaps it’s ok to behave this way. Because let’s say you saw your parents behaving like this while growing up and they are still together. Well back then people used to get married quickly and for life. Nowadays things are very different. People dump each other for the smallest little things and marriage doesn’t save it. To see a couple who still believe until death does us apart is very rare. And men tend to test women a lot before making the step to commit. Therefore if you want to be in a long term relationship you have no choice but to learn and be in charge of your own emotions. (if you need help, with emotional control, book me for one to one)
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