Heexpects me to chase him, should I?

We are encountering a new phenomenon in the 21st Century, men who are refusing to chase women, or who are so used to having women chase them that they are not willing to put in any real work to go after a woman that they like. All of this behaviour is creating a toxic environment for women in the dating sphere. Now I’m not trying to say that all men are doing this, but what I am pointing out is an unfortunate growing trend. So what should a woman do in this situation? She is probably thinking if I dont chase him and give him what he wants then we aren’t going to be able to be together, I am not going to be able to be with this man and I really like him so maybe I should just go after him instead. However what she doesnt realised is that this is incredibly counter productive.
First of all women love safety and security, so by chasing a man you are going against your innate needs as a female and everything that is going to bring you happiness. Let’s be honest, chasing a man doesn’t feel good! If you have ever done it, you will know that it actually makes us anxious, insecure and emotional, all of which are terrible things to be feeling especially when you are trying to find love. Secondly, when you begin any relationship or situation as the pursuer, you are basically saying to a man, he is the King, he needs to be put on a pedestal and you are ok with about making yourself uncomfortable to please him or to gain him. This position will put you at a disadvantage from the start, if you start out by chasing him, he’s always going to expect you to chase him and therefore the majority of the time you will be feeling, miserable anxious and unfulfilled when you are with him.
Third, you feel unwanted. When a man is not making an effort to get to know you or be with you, he is basically telling you that you are not that important to him and that you are an option. No woman wants to feel this way, this is not a blueprint for a healthy long term relationship. fourthly, Men are hunters. I am not talking exceptions here about John down the street who hates hunting and is a pacifist, I’m talking about the majority of the red blooded alpha men out there, they love to hunt! You will see guys go out fishing, and hunting sitting for hours, patiently to hunt something, because that to them is thrilling, women on the other hand (again majority not exceptions) aren’t into that kind of thing, we are more nurturing, we like someone to protect us and make us feel wanted and loved. Men value what they have to work for. This is the most important point. When a man wants something, he is going to work his ass off for it. why are cars such as a Bugatti so valuable? Because the vast majority men have to work damn hard to get one? Why do they enjoy sports? because they have to work hard to win that trophy! And like it or not its the same with a woman, if he didnt have to work hard for her, he will have little trouble in letting her go, if he worked really hard to get her, he’s going to do whatever he has to to keep her. So should you chase a man? Hell no! If he gives you breadcrumbs, refuses to chase, even if hes Brad Pitt good looking with a ripped body and hes rich, NEXT him! Or you will turn into one of his many fans not his future wife.
Sunsu Bee / January 22nd, 2023 / Uncategorized