FFeeling lonely in a relationship

It’s very interesting that so many people fall in love because they don’t want to be lonely, but even if you fall in love for that reason (to relieve loneliness), you might still feel lonely if you actually are not happy on the inside. Believe it or not, the main reason for this is that you start to rely on your partner for your own happiness, instead of finding happiness for yourself from within and in other things. 

So what’s the best way to not feel lonely in a relationship? The short answer, make yourself happy! What’s the best way to not feel lonely in a relationship? The long answer; make yourself happy! But how can you make yourself happy both in and out of a relationship?

The most important thing is that you should never give up on what you loved doing before you got into a relaitonship.

Many people stop doing things they love after they couple up. For example, if you used to go to yoga on Saturdays, but have stopped doing it altogether because your boyfriend only has Saturdays off, you’ve cut out of your life what makes you happy when you’re not with your partner. It’s a recipe for disaster all around. Having fun should always be kept part of your life so that you can spend time away from your partner, even if you want to spend all your time with him. So instead of giving up yoga altogether, join a Sunday or weekday class after work to get something to look forward to and focus on. That breathing space for yourself and for him, will add fresh air and happiness to your relationship and give your man a chance to miss you, all whilst you get to do something that keeps you happy.

Secondly keep your circle of close friends or make yourself new ones!

Just like people give up their hobbies, they give up their friends when they are in a relationship. They rely on their partner to share everything – thoughts, feelings, happiness – and feel sad, isolated, and lonely when their partner is unavailable. For this reason, always make time for good friends. Don’t let work commitments or other commitments in your life keep you from spending your free time with friends.

Beware of negative thoughts

In reality, your thoughts are more important than your emotions, and the two are very closely related. Negative thoughts such as self-pity and guilt can make you feel sad, anxious, overwhelmed, and lonely. Try to fight negative thoughts by replacing them with positive thoughts. Look for that silver lining. For example, if you think, `My hairstyle isn’t good today, and I’m not confident,” say, “Let’s try a different hairstyle today!” I know this is easier said than done, but it gets easier over time if you keep trying.

These are some tips for not feeling lonely, it’s not an exhaustive list, but I’d appreciate it if you could share more ideas in the comments below!

Sunsu Bee / October 9th, 2022 / Uncategorized