WWhen he starts to flake on you…

Flaking, its becoming a common and unfortunate phenomenon. In the world of online dating, where there is always another match round the corner if this one doesn’t work out, where humans have become replaceable and the lack of mutual friends and acquaintances makes people feel less like they owe you even common manners, flaking has become prevalent. So how do you know a man is being flaky and more importantly what do you do about it? You match with a cute guy, he’s your type, you both start chatting here and there and you decided to meet up. You both settle on a day and a place but no time, you’re both slightly excited and nervous. The day finally comes, but you’ve not heard from him, is the date going ahead or not. No texts and the entire day has gone, I guess its not. A few days pass and he messages you again like nothing has happened and fails to mention the missed date at all. You match with a cute guy, he’s your type, you both start chatting here and there and you decided to meet up. You both settle on a day and a place but no time, you’re both slightly excited and nervous. He confirms the time and you both meet up, you have a great time, you feel the chemistry and are hoping he felt the same. He asks to see you again you agree to a date next week. You both have a great second date and he asks for a third, you agree. However this time, you don’t hear from him as much in the middle, he fails to confirm like the times previously and then suddenly the day for the third date has been and gone. He messages you a few days later, either apologises or makes an excuse, or maybe he doesn’t mention anything at all. Both these scenarios are unfortunately very common (with a few minor changes here and there) and they often leave a woman feeling confused, frustrated and wondering what she did wrong. You are not alone, men like this will often keep women around, not really making a proper effort, or giving a half-baked attempt at an effort. So what can you do about such behaviour? The majority of women will allow these men to continue contact with them always hoping and praying that the man will one day change as he gets to know her more or texts her more, even though this never really happens. Flaking is a sign of low interest, if a man is showing you he doesn’t care in the initial stages of dating when he is supposed to be working hard to win you over it won’t change later unless he can’t find anyone else he is really crazy about. The best thing that you can do in such scenario
  1. Keep him as a penpal and don’t expect much
You can keep men like this around if you are bored, as just some chum to chat to about general things (no sex talk or flirting he doesn’t deserve that) but don’t expect that he will ever step up, if you do there is a 99% chance you will be disappointed. My preferred choice. If you allow a man to hang around and get any attention form you, even if it is just a text here and there you are basically making him realises you will settle for his breadcrumby basic actions because you have nothing better to do. Keep it moving and go and spend your energy on a man who likes you as much as you like him, let all the others go! Again if you don’t think ghosting him completely is something you can do, then you can ghost him temporarily. If the man texts ignore him, let him earn your attention. If he double or triple texts you later on you can respond, keep is brief and let him earn more time with you Which ever way you cut it, flaking sucks. When you find a guy who is decent, and you like, if he doesn’t flake, then you’ve got yourself a keeper.
Sunsu Bee / July 31st, 2022 / Uncategorized