There are many signs that the person you are in a relationship with or are dating, is being manipulative or controlling. Often times we will miss alot of these signs because we are so infatuated or in love with the person that we cant se clearly what they are doing before its too late.
One thing that many women don t know about is that In order for a man to be in control of you, you need to care about him first otherwise he cannot control you! Imagine this if a guy that you don’t care about is throwing tantrums, is being manipulative or is losing emotional control on you you’ll just block or ignore him right?
Yes and it’s because you just don’t care about him that much so it’s easy to let go, but if you are invested into him and you care about him, we have a different story. Men know about his so how do they control women by applying this strategy?
The first thing that a man will try to do is make you care about them he usually achieves this by low investment activity ie. flattery and promises or in other words “love bombing” you. Women are unfortunately usually naive and the majority of us fall for a few nice compliments and promises here and there. A higher investment from a man would be giving you, his personal time, being consistent in his ACTIONS and even paying for things often to try and impress you. Either way they know that more you invest in someone or give someone the more that person starts to see you as genuine and like you and care about you.
As soon as some men (the more game playing power trip seeking men) see that you are starting to care about them a bit more what they usually do is they begin to pull back. They take away the compliments and stop giving as much time or attention as the used to. Now this pull back could be because he is losing interest or it could be because he wants to use you by having that control over you.
Usually when he will stop giving as much, if you care about him you will get insecure, as you will be wondering what happened and why he suddenly went cold. Also now that you are also emotionally involved it’s frightening for you when you think he may walk away from you. This is when a man now has control over you. Usually this is also when women will begin to chase men.
They wrongly assume that that more nice and kind they will be the more he will give back and care and love her.
However it does not work like this. When a man is in control of you he also loses his attraction for you! And after that is you also begin chasing him he will stop caring about you and only take you for granted or use you before he ends up leaving you.
There is an old saying that if you cannot control a woman you know she’s a keeper. You are actually turning him off and making him bored by letting him control you. Now I’m not saying don’t fall in love with a man because you fear power games, what I’m saying is that when starts to manipulate you by pulling back etc maintain your emotional control, don’t chase him and have control over yourself so no one can control you!
Hi ladies, it's great to be a part of this group again. I wanted to return to share my story as Greta Bereišaitė changed my life. The self confidence I gained from working with Greta and the coaches changed my life.
Briefly, two short years ago I had just broken up with my boyfriend (for the 5th time in 4 years). He couldn't commit and I was at the end of my rope and didn't realize that the reason for this was because I was a predictable doormat and did everything wrong. I was the nice girl who wore her heart on her sleeve. I loved him very much, but kept breaking up with him because he just wouldn't commit.
During the three months I was broken up with him and following the teachings of Greta my life changed dramatically! Even though I was very low on funds-being a single mom of two girls, I scraped up enough extra money to join the Ladies VIP and Sunsu Bee and the other coaches were amazing. They coached me in new ways of dating and interacting with men that changed my life. The twice a week lives made such a difference in how I interacted not just with men, but friends and family as well. I also saw the mistakes I had made that allowed others to take me for granted.
Three months after leaving my boyfriend he came back. I used all of the tools I learned from Greta and the coaches and within in 3 weeks of talking with him again-he proposed. This is a man who only spent the night at my house two times during the whole 4 years we were dating!!! He had been all about himself and his needs. The shift in him was dramatic. And I did everything the coaches told me to do. Even when it was uncomfortable-I couldn't ignore the results and changes I was seeing in my high value man.
The week after he proposed, he treated me to a trip to Hawaii for two weeks-first class all the way. He had planned the trip to propose to me, but couldn't wait to propose-so we went on the trip one week after he proposed. When we returned from Hawaii we bought a house together where he has invested over $100k in remodeling the house. He gave me his Escalade which I didn't even want but he wanted me to return my newe car to the dealership because the monthly payments were so costly! The Escalade was his baby but he freely handed it over to me, to help us save $.
The reason I bring up his financial investment in our relationship is because before being a part of this group and working with Greta, I would have refused most of the above because I'm an independent woman. But Greta taught me that when a man loves a woman he wants to spoil her and he invests in her. And ladies, he never did any of this before I was a part of this group.
I have wanted to share my story for so long with Greta and the other coaches to tell them thank you. But, I also want to share it with you ladies because the best thing you can do is to keep coming back here. Read the advice of others, but keep in mind that they may not be as far along in the high value woman journey. The only way you will get to that next stage is to work directly with the coaches in the VIP. Also, Greta's book on the games men play is excellent. I have it on audio and have listened to it a few times to remind myself how men work.
At this point I have been happily married to my husband since September of this year. He left his job in coaching to be a full time stepfather to my two teenage girls (girls who he spent probably a total of 1 week with during the four years we dated) and to work on flipping houses. My point is, if he can change so dramatically based on me changing my behavior, it is possible for anybody!
I have created my dream life. Not just because I'm married to the man of my dreams but because I trust myself and know that I am a high value woman. I have started my own business as a life coach and many of the valuable lessons I've learned from this group, finds its way into my work with others. And I know I have Greta and the other coaches to thank for this. You ladies are truly the best!!! I can't thank you enough.
He took me out for Valentines date today and proposed to me. He popped the question and we went to a ring shop afterwards. I would've posted the picture of the ring but he wanted the right size for me so I will post it to you next time. This wouldn't have happened without your coaching, your VIP Facebook, and your YouTube videos!! And of course you yourself. I have been following you since last June. It only sank in when I came back home, I couldn't believe it. I Broke up with an ex in the summer but when I found my current guy I followed your tips hardcore, and it fi
The first thing that a man will try to do is make you care about them he usually achieves this by low investment activity ie. flattery and promises or in other words “love bombing” you. Women are unfortunately usually naive and the majority of us fall for a few nice compliments and promises here and there. A higher investment from a man would be giving you, his personal time, being consistent in his ACTIONS and even paying for things often to try and impress you. Either way they know that more you invest in someone or give someone the more that person starts to see you as genuine and like you and care about you.
As soon as some men (the more game playing power trip seeking men) see that you are starting to care about them a bit more what they usually do is they begin to pull back. They take away the compliments and stop giving as much time or attention as the used to. Now this pull back could be because he is losing interest or it could be because he wants to use you by having that control over you.
