TheThe right way to be a challenge for him
The right way to be a challenge for him
The number one thing that women struggle with the most when dating a man is how to give him the correct amount of certainty and uncertainty. They will either come across as too hot or too cold, either one of which will push a man away and cause him to lose attraction for you. This is why its vital that we learn to find the balance, often times which can only be achieved if you speak to a dating coach who will give you an objective insight into what your are doing wrong and right, and what to change and what to keep the same.
So why should you even give a man uncertainty to begin with? The reason is because it is one of main love needs. Men also hve other love needs such as admiration and appreciation, but uncertainty is definitely one of the top needs to fulfil to get a man to fall in love with you. However you have to be careful, it’s very important that you give uncertainty in a balanced way, don’t overdo it.
In this blog im going to talk mostly about when women are being too cold with a man, since they often fail to spot this and it causes alot of problems.
Some common ways ladies give uncertainty incorrectly is by acting bitchy, rude, disrespectful and just really horrible and cold. No high value self-respecting man will ever put up with a rude disrespectful cold bitch, so let’s fix it before you go overboard and get dumped.
When you are setting in boundaries in a very tough way. An example is a lady was asked out by a guy, he confirmed the date but didn’t plan what they were going to do on it, so she ignored him for 5 days (even though he was texting and calling and pursuing her etc). so he dumps her and now she wants him back but it’s been 1 month and there is no sign of him.
When a man is coming to you and is expressing his feelings for you or is being vulnerable and you come across as rude or cold. I had a lady who was being sarcastic back to her boyfriend when he did that, thinking that she’s giving uncertainty when she was actually being a bitch. For example he said would you still like me if I lost my job and she was replied to him in a sarcastic arrogant way, massively putting him off. When a man comes to you for reassurance you give him reassurance.
If your text messages are too cold. You are literally replying with one word answers and an I don’t give a f*ck attitude. If he respects himself he will start to reply in a way that he doesn’t give an f*ck too. It’s all about having a balance, dont be desperate and don’t rude.
So….what is a natural high value ways to give a man uncertainty? Be polite but strong with your boundaries. Never be rude. It about having good manners but showing him your wont budge from your boundaries. It is also important that you have self love and self respect, when you have these two things, it becomes much much easier to set and keep boundaries, but remember to do it in a respectful way.
For example:
- When you are high value and respect yourself and you set in healthy boundaries in a relationship, you are automatically giving him uncertainty. As you are showing self-love which means I know my value I know my worth and I don’t let people walk all over me.
- Put yourself first. You were born by yourself you will die by yourself. Go for your dreams, put yourself first. When you are going to die God is not going to ask you which man you married, God will ask you what have you done with the life that I gave to you. You putting yourself first, loving yourself and being high value will automatically give him uncertainty because you are not making him into your whole life.
- Let him pursue, but he doesn’t need to do all the work, you do need to be receptive, appreciative and give in a feminine way too. Remember it is a partnership and a relationship requires some give and take.
So ladies, the most important thing to remember is that, high value is a balance, if you keep this at the forefront, you will never go wrong.
