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If you have been dating someone for a while and things aren’t progressing it can become both frustrating and confusing. At times like these, when you have been seeing someone for two days a week for some time or doing the come over and chill days nearly all the time, you may start wondering where the “relationship” is going.

As women we want to progress and take it to the next level, we begin wondering why he hasn’t snapped us up, if he feels the same way I do. In this confusion a woman will make a very big mistake, they will decide to ask the man “where’s this going?”

Some women have this talk after a few months, some after a few days and some after a few days! I have heard of situations where a woman wants to be the girlfriend after the first date and pushes to do just that!

Although I will leave the reasons of why becoming a man’s girlfriend after a few dates or even the first date is a bad idea for another blog, I will elaborate in this blog why bringing up this topic with a man you want to get serious with is foolish and pointless.

You may be thinking in your mind a bunch of different reasons why he’s not asked you to be official yet, e.g. Maybe he’s shy, maybe he’ll think that I’ll say no or maybe he’s using me, whatever you may be thinking, having the conversation won’t speed things up. If he knew what that you were the one for him, he would have asked you already, you asking him will make him pull out his best charm cards or his best bullshit cards. You will probably get the answer of “I don’t know, lets take things slow” and you will come across as, needy and a woman who is desperate for a relationship. This will make your value go down in his eyes and probably push him actually asking you off his own accord, even more forward.

 

Keep your options open and keep dating, if you’re behaving high value, if he’s completely into to as well he will move things onto the next stage himself and be desperate to tie you down! However if he doesn’t, since you are keeping your options open anyway, it won’t make you feel as bad, since all your eggs are not in one basket.

Remember when you ask him “where is this going?” You’re actually leaving it up to him to decide whether he wants to be with you or not, when in fact that choice should be yours. Stay high value and eventually he will progress things fast himself, if you have been high value and things still aren’t moving forward at a pace you’re happy with, it’s better to leave than to leave the ball in his court about whether he wants you or not.

 

Sunsu Bee / March 28th, 2022 / Uncategorized