ShouldI ask my guy friend for relationship advice?
Women often think that because guys know guys best that, they are the best people to ask when it comes to relationship advice. But what women don’t realise is that there are many reasons why this is not a good idea at all, one of the main ones being that men often themselves can not be self aware (just like many women can not be self aware) of what they need. Have you ever had a friend who encouraged you to reach out to your ex and spill your feelings, and it ended up doing more harm than good. Men can end up doing the exact same thing. Here are some more reasons I have complied for you to read through!
He fancies you. If you ask a guy “friend” for advice on how to make things work with your boyfriend don’t expect him to give you the correct advice. If he wants you for himself, its highly unlikely that he will give you advice on how stay with another man! If it’s your brother, yes, I get that. If it’s your dad, Yes I get that too, but If it’s a gHe fancies you. If you ask a guy “friend” for advice on how to make things work with your boyfriend don’t expect him to give you the correct advice. If he wants you for himself, its highly unlikely that he will give you advice on how stay with another man! If it’s your brother, yes, I get that. If it’s your dad, Yes I get that too, but If it’s a guy friend who fancies you he’s not he’s not going to give you the right advice. I know many many stories where the guy friend who fancies the girl ruined that girls relationship on purpose and gave bad advice.
The second reason why you should not listen to a guy is that he might tell you how to act from a guy’s perspective only. He won’t put himself in a woman’s shoes and tell you what’s attractive for a man but he might tell you how to act as a man. So, for example, if you want your ex back, he might tell you that you have to go and pursue him, you have to do everything that he tells you to do you have go to him and apologise and chase him, basically act as a man.
Third reason why you should be very careful at listening to a guy is that some of the guys are just not that self-aware. Some of the guys literally don’t know why they lost attraction for girls they used to date. They literally just say, oh it wasn’t meant to be or I don’t know why we broke up. They aren’t like women, they don’t analyse into relationships as much as us. He’s just like whatever. For some reason I don’t like her anymore she’s changed or something and he ends it. Therefore if he’s not that self-aware and he doesn’t understand himself and the reasons why he as a guy does certain things, he is not qualified to give advice on the topic.
He might tell you what he wants, not what he needs. I see a lot of comments from the guys on my channel and basically they say what they want, eg. A girl who is open and wears her heart on a sleeve or someone who chases and cooks and cleans for him, even though in reality this is not what they need.
Therefore ladies, it important to learn the rope not from a man but another women who is high value and understands men’s games inside out!
