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Why is he distant

There are a number of reasons that men become distant, today I’m going to go through some of the main ones.

  1. He wants some guy time

Often when you’ve been dating/chatting to a guy for a while, he will want some time away from you to recharge his testosterone, hang out with his friends and do man things with the guys so he feels ready to come to you again. This type of distance is very important, when he has time away from you he has time to miss you! When he misses you he will come back a lot quicker.

Men are more logical in their way of thinking. When they reach a problem, they are going to look for a solution and they will normally retreat into themselves until they find that solution. It could be work, home or health, whatever the reason is, he will want time by himself to work out his problems before coming back to you. Don’t panic, let him come back to you when he’s ready.

When you both have had a falling out, a man will tend to withdraw himself, he needs time to process his emotions, calm down and get over the argument. This is normal behaviour and you shouldn’t panic. It is actually better to give some space after an argument if he wants it, as trying to force yourself into his space will only push him away further, and take longer for himt o come back. It may even trigger another argument, its better to just let him talk to you when he’s ready. If you feel like you are the one to blame for the argument, dropping in a sorry wont make things worse, they could help him to move on from it faster, just make sure you do it once, sincerely and then don’t keep going over it. If he was disrespectful then don’t forget to put down a boundary, you need to handle the situation depending on what happened during the argument.

Sometimes he will play a game where, everything is going well and all of a sudden he vanishes, when he does this, it’s usually because he wants to make you panic and therefore to run after him. This is the last thing you want to do. When he pulls away like this, its better to give him space, to not run after him and to let him come back to you when he’s ready, without acting like you were waiting for him all this time.

It could be that when you both started dating, he was attracted to your looks, now as time has gone on, he has realised that you both don’t have a lot in common, or that he is bored because you both don’t have a lot to talk about. There must be a good to high level of compatibility in order for a relationship to work long term, he may feel like there isn’t enough from his side, which makes him want to pull back, even if you are feeling compatibility from your side. Again in this case, don’t chase him, just lean back. Chasing him wont accomplish much, as if he’s already made up his mind then chasing him won’t change that.

Sunsu Bee / December 18th, 2021 / Uncategorized