Whenshould I ignore him?
There are times when ignoring a man will achieve a lot more than engaging with him. here is my handy reminders on when its best to do this and why.
- when he is being negative. When he is giving you bad energy, for example texting you something nasty manipulative or rude. If you do not like the text the best thing is to ignore it. Men know when they are being rude or crossing the line. They are very aware of it, he is not stupid, the reason he is doing it is because he is looking for your reaction, he’s checking to see how you will handle disrespect. If give energy to negativity and don’t ignore it then it spreads and I’m pretty sure this is not what you want.
- When he is teasing you for example he starts saying things like, “I will never get married” or “your sister is so beautiful” if you don’t know what to say in response, you can ignore the comment and not react or you can banter back. Just make sure not to get affected by it as it is just him teasing you and it’s pure provocation, he knows what he is doing, therefore make sure you don’t reward it. As I said before instead ignore it or banter back. So for example, if he says, he never wants to get married you can just say like yeah, of course why marry a pig if all you need is a little sausage or if he says wow your sister is so beautiful say thank you so much, of course she’s beautiful she’s my sister after all.
- When he pulls away. Ladies there are many reasons why men pull away and it is very important to understand that even if you don’t know why hes done it to respect it regardless. Let a man fall back, the worst thing you can do when a man pulls away is to chase him! Leave him alone. In order for a man to realize his feelings for you and to miss you he actually must pull away. If you will never let a man pull away he might actually fall out of love with you.
- If you are getting into a nasty argument. If this happens you must realise that when a guy gets into an argument his goal is not to sort out the problem but to win the argument, no matter what it takes. So if his goal is to win it as he is a competitive male rather than caring and nurturing female, he will very likely blame you, become nasty and hit below the belt, therefore walk away from any argument. Let him have his tantrum, ignore it and do not waste your energy on it. Instead learn to set healthy boundaries with your actions not your words.
- When he is liking girls pictures on Instagram or mentioning an ex. For example if he says another girl is beautiful first you need to understand that he knows what he is doing, he’s trying to get a reaction from you by giving you negative energy. So how do you respond to this? As I have mentioned before there is no need to respond to negativity! Do not reward bad behaviour with your precious energy, ignore it. When he will see that you are not reacting it will not make sense to make you jealous anymore as it will just be too boring for him.
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