Feel like a failure | Relationship Coach for Women

DidDid you scare him away?

Did you scare him away?

When the guy you are dating suddenly vanishes, or starts to show less interest, often women begin to panic. Often it means that the guy has been scared away by something you have said or done.

The most important thing to do is the opposite of what youre doing, which is panicking. Lean back and assess the situation logically, without turning it into your obsession.

Maybe you did or said something to:

  1. Please him
  2. Impress him
  3. You were negative
  4. Grumpy
  5. Blaming the world
  6. Chasing him
  7. Having no boundaries
  8. Nagging
  9. Being needy
  10. Having sex way to soon

So what can you do to fix it?

Firstly acknowledge what you did so you don’t do it again. self-accountability is very important as without it we keep repeating the same mistakes and blaming others.

Address the reason why he may have left by changing it.

So for example, if you were nagging him and he left, you need to lean back, eventually he will be back in touch and when he is, act like nothing happened, and make sure that you don’t nag him again.

The majority of situations can be handled, by leaning back, letting him come to you, and not repeating the same mistake again even if he pushes you to do it (eg. Button pushing etc) .

With more in depth mistakes like being disrespectful to him, giving him an apology is important before things will smooth out again. its about judging each mistake and acting according to it.

If in doubt ask a coach and we can help you to figure out what you did wrong and how to fix it!

Sunsu Bee / July 18th, 2021 / Life Coaching