WhenWhen you need closure from him
Breakups are hard at the best of times, but when your significant other decides they want to break up out of the blue and without telling you why it can be very shocking. We want to know what happened, what went wrong and what we could have done to prevent it. Sometimes we want to know what went wrong so we can fix it.
When someone breaks up with you, its usually something that has been coming for a while and you have missed signs. Sometimes its because you took the last straw, sometimes its because they are just not interested any more for whatever reason.
Either way you’re lost and confused and you want to know what happened, what you did wrong if anything at all, so you can close the book on this chapter of your life and move on.
This is typical for most women going through heartbreak or just the end of a relationship; we want closure so we can move on and never look back. Men however are the opposite. Men don’t want closure because the majority of them come back, or they stick you on their reserve team and rotate you. What do I mean by rotate exactly? Let me explain, when you mess up he rotates to another woman and then maybe another one after that, maybe add in two more and then eventually back to you.
It sucks and it may not be fair for them to leave the door open like this so he can walk back in whenever he wants but unfortunately this is just the way men think.
so should you ask for closure in order to move on?
Even though it may be something you are desperate for and are hurting for, the answer is No. There is no need to ask a guy “why are you breaking up with me, please explain” you promised me this that that and the other. First it all makes you look weak and shows that you care too much about him, which kind of makes him feel sorry for instead of respecting you. Men don’t stay with women they feel sorry for.
Additionally 90% of the time he will not tell you the real reason for the break up and if he will tell you a reason a lot of time it’s actually a lie.
So now that you know all of this, is there really any point in you getting closure ?
Why do they do this? And more importantly why don’t men need closure? Because they like to keep their options open, so they leave, then come back, leave again. There is no point for him to disappear on you for good even if he blocks you, usually it is to get you to react and unblock you some time later.
if he dumps you say bye bye and that’s all, let him walk. This will be playing back in his mind over and over again as it will make him wonder did you actually care about him at all and did he make the right decision by letting you go. Ladies if he is dumping you, he doesn’t deserve to know whether you actually cared about him or not, keep him wondering! It’s way hotter than asking for closure.
Often when you show you have moved on with your life he will often (not always) second guess his decision about breaking up and come back to you and this is how you can give yourself the best second chance.
