whyhe doesnt follows through on his promises
He promised you the world however he never follows through.
His actions always leave you wanting more.
So why does he do this? Why is it that he says he will marry you, introduce to his family, take you on a holiday and then time goes on, and these things are no where in sight.
Firstly his promises are a form of flattery.
Him giving you a lot of flattery and promises charming you, is his way of showing you that he is attracted to you.
He is invested in you to some level, he feels the chemistry and therefore wants to promise you the world and make you feel amazing, so you will like him too.
Flattery and promises are a very light way of investing in a woman, its like a beautiful poem, everyone like to hear it, doesn’t mean that the words have truth though, they are there for enjoyment.
And just because we enjoy it, it doesn’t mean we should be naive and gullible.
It doesnt mean you should move quickly with him because he’s selling you a fantasy you will love to hear. Don’t jump into bed with him, or actually think that he has fallen in love with you from the moment he has seen you.
All of this flattery will make you think that he is head over heels for you and will make you want to give your whole self to him in the first few days, weeks or months, but you absolutely must not. Remember its just a sales pitch.
If you do give yourself to him too soon in every which way, he will most likely be gone in no time as he will feel that you’re way too easy.
Be wise, don’t underestimate men in fact over estimate them. After all they are coming up with strategies on how to seduce women.
If falling in love at first sight was true, he would be falling in love at first sight with every woman that he found attractive.
Men fall in love by spending quality time with you. So if you want to be with a charmer you must behave correctl by being smart, being high value, setting boundaries and respecting yourself, loving yourself and observing his behaviour.
Let him charm you, as it’s a natural and wonderful feeling to be charmed, however understand he is trying to charm you and impress you for you to like him and show you his best cards.
Secondly he makes promises to Keep you around to drag you along for as long as he can.
A lot of men want to squeeze as much as they can out of you by investing as little as they can in you. If he has not made anything official and I mean engagement, or marriage, it’s because he’s dragging it out on purpose.
Man hold the key to the relationship, he might tell you that he wants to marry you but not give you actions, thats because he’s only telling you what you want to hear in the moment and buying himself some more time without actually giving you any real actions. Kind of like when they tell you they will put that shelf up and then never do it, until you get someone else to do it, and then they complain you were impatient.
Some will even go as far as to tell you that before he can marry you he needs to move in with you, he needs to have a baby with you, he needs start a business with you. even after he has done all of this he will turn around and tell you that actually he has commitment issues, he doesn’t feel emotionally ready yet and that you don’t need marriage because it’s just a piece of paper. By this time you will be so heavily invested that you will find yourself stuck on unable to say no. You are trapped.
So have a time frame for yourself and don’t tell him, if the by the end of that time frame the relationship has not grown to where you want it to be then be willing to walk away so you are not wasting your time and he can no longer take advantage of you. If he is serious about you he will give you what you want to keep you, if not then you have just saved yourself many more years of a relationship that won’t go anywhere.
