whydoes he lie?
I get a lot of women who complain to me about their partners or men they are dating, “he told me he would [insert promise] and he didn’t, why does he always say he will do something and then doesn’t?”
What women don’t realise is that these “promises” like these are basically just manipulation techniques that men use to make you like them more.
They know that women love to hear charming things and promises of what could be, and often forgive when these are not delivered upon, so he likes to create that fantasy in your mind and under deliver, knowing that you will forgive and forget eventually anyway.
This is known as the power of seduction. It is a technique that most men use on women, which most women don’t even know about! It has a few main themes, games and tricks but the one that seems to work on women most is “flattery and promises”.
This aspect is usually the most simple but also the most effective. Men know that women love to be flattered, they know that women love to hear how beautiful and amazing they are, so they use this to their advantage when they meet a woman they are interested in and may want something from. When a guy meets a woman that he finds attractive, he begins telling her things that he assumes that she wants to hear, such as “you have beautiful eyes” “you are exactly the kind of woman I’ve been waiting for” or “you have an amazing body”. Even if this is all true, but the reason that he’s saying all these things is so he can charm her so she will like him. There is nothing wrong with you appreciating and enjoying the flattery, just don’t take it as gold and ignore his actions.
Men love to tell women what they will do for them and what will happens in “their” future together. So for example if he is telling you that he wants to get married and have children with you in the first few months, or he is he saying we should go on holiday together on the second date, he is basically doing what he was before and saying what he thinks you want to hear.
They have honed this technique after practicing on countless other women before them. They are putting forward a sales pitch, one that has been successful many times before, you have to stand out from those other women and recognise the pitch and not give into it.
I’m not saying that you should create a fuss and confront him when he doesn’t deliver on his promise, in fact what I’m saying is that when he says he is going to do something like call you later, take it for what it is a sales pitch and don’t expect him to. This should ONLY be acceptable once in a while, if a man is consistently doing this, and not delivering when he said he would, then he is unreliable and doesn’t deserve any more of your time.
