Picked her over me! I thought I was doing everything right

Canyou stop him from cheating?

Can you stop him from cheating?

Its now easier to cheat than ever before.

Thats probably not what you want to read as an opening line, but its absolutely true.

With social media and online dating, it seems that relationships have become alot more disposable than ever before, men and women tend to think that there is always better around the corner.

This is why its important that we now what to do and not to do so we can avoid such people potential heartache.

First of all its important that you

Minimise your investment

When youre still getting to know someone and seeing how they feel about you, its very important that you are not heavily investing into the relationship. Keep sex off the table (will massively help you not be addicted to him) spend no more that two days a week with him on a dates and keep them outside, all of this will help you to properly observe him and see how much hes into you and if there are any red flags! Without you becoming very hurt if it doesnt work out.

Watch out for red flags

If you see that hes not investing in you (time energy effort), inconsistent and isnt trying to make you his girl after a few months, then cut him loose, if you wife up with a man who is making you question whether he loves you, HE DOESNT. Cut your lossses and let him go.

If youre already in a relationship and worried he’ll cheat; work on your self confidence, a confident woman is one that is hard to find and one that a man will always feel that he needs to impress to keep, have standards and when he doesnt match those, put down boundaries. When he cant walk all over you he will respect you and respect breeds love which significantly decreases the chances of him cheating

Have a life outside of him, if you have this, he will never fully feel like he has you so he will always work to keep you, he will know you can leave if you want, so he needs to be good to keep you around.

The best way to stop a man from cheating is to increase his attraction for you so he doesn’t feel the need to cheat. Being the best version of yourself, controlling your emotions, being high value putting yourself first, focusing on yourself, creating beautiful life for yourself, fulfilling his love needs, setting in healthy boundaries in the relationship will increase his attraction for you and decrease the chances of cheating on you.  

If he’s married to his dream girl why would he cheat? Work on yourself, become that polished diamond he is scared of losing and knows he will never find again.

Sunsu Bee / October 3rd, 2021 / Life Coaching