whento let go

Today I’m going to talk about when you should let him go, not only based on what will make you high value, but also when your gut is telling you it may be time, or something doesn’t feel right.

First of all, have a time frame.

For example, if your intention is to get married, you need to put in a time frame you’re willing to wait so you’re not wasting your time. If you have been dating for a year or more and you still have not met his extended family or friends, then the relationship is clearly not growing, instead its become stagnant.

The danger of staying in such a relationship will mean that you are blocking yourself from the other men because you are hoping and waiting for your partner to step up.

Realistically for a man to know that he sees you as a wife, takes less than a year, if youre still hanging around after that and no ring has been forthcoming, then you are wasting your time.

If you have been behaving high value, its vital to have a time frame, unless you are happy to be the girlfriend forever. Make sure to start the clock from the moment that you begin behaving high value and see what is happening in your relationship after a year. If you behave low value, you may not see any improvement, even after five years

Secondly, watch his actions. Is he using words like, “I will marry you next year” but when next year comes, and there is no mention of this and no ring is forthcoming then he’s not actually planning on marrying you anytime soon. He needs to be showing you with his actions that he’s serious about you. The talks about marriage and the future, need to come freely from him and not bought about by you.

Essentially, he his actions will also help you discern if you want to spend the rest of your life with him. For example, if you’re not happy right now in the relationship then why spend the rest of your life with him? Do you think you’re going to be happy with him when you’re married. I don’t think so.

Now if nothing is moving forward then at this point you should let him go. As I always say, short-term pain for long-term happiness, It may hurt when you let him go, but you must think long-term staying in a stagnant relationship will only make you unhappy because over time with no growth, things get very dull and boring and that’s when men actually start taking women from granted and start playing many many games or even cheating. If he’s not stepping up let him go by.

You then need to cut all contact with him. As you break the news to him about calling it quits he might actually come after you to see, if you will take him back, however at this stage It would be the best to see what he does in terms of stepping up in his actions. If he brings you the same old promises with no actions then it’s the best to cut it off completely with him and not entertain this clown any more.

Sunsu Bee / September 11th, 2021 / Life Coaching