Trying your best to make your relationship work, backfires

Thishappens when you put him on a pedestal

When you meet a new guy that you like, you feel attracted to him and often what happens is that you start to think oh my God he seems too good to be true and to good for you. When he’s around you feel nervous and stressed, you can’t speak and you seem to freeze. The reason that this happens is because you’re putting him on a pedestal.

Now let me give you two main reasons of why you should not put a guy on a pedestal!  The first one is by putting him on a pedestal; you are reducing your own value and worth not only in your eyes, but in his as well. And when you reduce your own value you end up chasing a guy and trying to impress him so he will like you as much as you like him. If you will believe that you are good enough for him, and you don’t believe in yourself, he will eventually get turned off. A man will not go after a woman who thinks he is a king without even knowing him. It’s purely, naïve and silly.

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Furthermore, if you’re trying to impress him and prove your own value and worth to him what youre actually doing is taking his job in courting you away from him. How can he pursue you when you already are trying to sweep him off his feet instead? He’ll think well that was easy, I will just sit back and enjoy the show.

Secondly, when you lose your confidence, he loses attraction for you. By putting him on a pedestal, not only you reducing your value but you also can’t be yourself. You are too scared to speak or maybe you speak too much. You will either freeze out of fear or will do the opposite and be too much in his face or aggressive.

This is why first when you meet a guy you like, be logical first. Any guy can sweep you of your feet on the first few dates. All he needs is a nice dinner and some charms and basically that’s all it takes these days before a woman is hooked.

Especially the ones who like to use women for sex only, are only able to please her in the bedroom and nowhere else, these guys are usually the worst relationship material, they may look good on the paper but have no idea on how to give a woman what she needs in a relationship.

And in the majority of cases, when you’ll actually need him to be there for you, he’s going to be too busy playing mind games on you. My point is ladies, everyone knows how to put their best foot forward, on the first couple of dates, don’t build a guy up from the second you see him, take things slow. Look out for the red flags and actually take your time to get to know him, if after the first few months later he’s still growing on you, well, that’s fantastic but to rush to conclusions and build a fantasy in your mind about a man will often lead to heartbreak!. I’m happy for you. The ladies, we serve my few reasons on how not to put guy on a pedestal.

Sunsu Bee / August 7th, 2021 / Life Coaching