Trying your best to make your relationship work, backfires

Dothis when he is rude

So he’s been rude to you! Most women don’t know how to handle a situation where a man has been disrespectful to them.  What is the best way to handle the situation?

Lets break things down with some examples. So if he starts an argument, with you. There is no real reason or maybe there is a reason, he picks something insignificant or something he knows will upset you or something that has been on his mind and he wants to hurt you with it and begins to argue, what do you do?

I bet you argue back right? You try to show him sense, you yell, scream; maybe even start to cry and you most of all you just can’t understand why he would behave this way. After the argument he may even begin to ignore you and act like the fight was entirely your fault, making you feel guilty. It feels like you just can’t win.

Let me tell you the secret though, on how to win every argument, every time.

It’s not always easy, but has a 100% success rate. Next time he starts an argument do this…

Leave. Walk away. Give him nothing. No response, no emotional reactions, nothing.

I told you it wasn’t easy, but it will mean that you will win every time.

By not getting pulled into his provocation and drama, you will avoid the drama every time.

Men love power, I mean who doesn’t right? When you walk away, remove your attention and ignore him, you take away that very thing, you take away the power in the situation.

If you fight with him, cry, scream back and try to state your case or blaming him, you’re giving him attention. Its negative attention, but guess what it’s still attention!

It shows how much you care, and how he can manipulate you and push your buttons whenever he feels like it.

Even if this drama is over text, eg. He sends you something that’s rude and you don’t like it, do what a guy always does, ignore the message and don’t respond. Next time he messages something you like again, respond to it, simple.

If he calls you, starts yelling and screaming over the phone or being rude, say “I’m really sorry but I have to go now, I’m very busy” and get off the phone call. Only respond when his behavior has changed and he’s behaving nicely again.

If it’s in person, say “excuse me, do you think it’s acceptable to behave this way with me?” or “excuse me please don’t talk to me like this” If he continues, get your stuff an leave, the room or the house. That’s it.

Next time he will know, if he wants to spend time with you, he has to be on his best behavior and if he’s not he doesn’t get the privilege of your attention or time.

Show him with your actions. Men respond better to actions, period.

This is the easiest and best way to gain respect from a man or anyone for that matter.

The person who remains the most unbothered is always the victor, you didn’t let someone else have the satisfaction of disturbing your peace or making you upset, you showed them you won.

Sunsu Bee / July 30th, 2021 / Life Coaching