isIs he marriage material?

We often as coaches deal with women who have made a lot of mistakes in past relationships, they are trying their best to become the best version of themselves and correct those past mistakes so they can be more successful in the future. However often times these women will not scrutinise the type of men they are dating or in relationships with, with the same microscope as themselves, this often leads to women stuck with guys who are not high value and therefore not the an adequate match for them.

So what are signs that a man is high value?

In order for a high value woman to be truly fulfilled and happy in a
relationship she needs to be with a high value man, this is because like attracts like. If you are behaving high value in a relationship, but things still feel like a complete struggle and your partners behaviour isn’t meeting the amazing standards that you have (and should) be setting for yourself, it could be because he himself is not high value.

One of the main qualities of a high value man is, he has ambition and goals and instead of simply taking about how he wants to accomplish these goals and accomplish big things in life, he is actually putting wheels into motion and doing it. He is showing with actions and not just words he has dreams he is going after. Now these goals can be financial or even running a marathon he’s always wanted to run or learn a new language. The key is that he wants to constantly strive in life, not stay in one place and is constantly working on himself to be the best version of himself.

In addition to striving to bring out the best in himself, just like a high value woman he needs to also learn to master and control his emotions. If he has anger issues, if he becomes enraged and abusive towards you or others and is quick to flip the anger switch, then he is not a man of high value. Emotional control is a key feature that all quality men must have. He understand that rather than starting an argument it is better for him to walk away, he also understands that he needs to think before her acts and cant lead with his emotions. If he does have an emotional outburst he apologises and makes sure he doesn’t repeat the mistake over and over again.

In addition a high value man also doesn’t have addictions, not to drugs, porn or harmful substances. He is in control of his life.

A high value man should also be generous and kind, he should be honest and open to giving. He should respect you and treat you well but also in addition he should be respectful and kind to other people in your life and people he meets on a daily basis. He has manners and integrity. A man who is rude to you, your family, or even the waiter is not a guy that will be good for you in the long term if you are indeed a high value woman.

He needs to have a direction in his life, a purpose and to be constantly striving towards this.  He also needs to be someone who treats you with respect and expects to be treated with respect in return. A high value man will not tolerate disrespect and if he is with a woman with a bad attitude he will move on quickly, he also doesn’t settle. Just like a high value woman he understands it’s better to be single than in a bad relationship just for the sake of it.

So after ready this blog ladies, do you feel like your guy is high value? Let me know in the comments

Sunsu Bee / April 30th, 2021 / Life Coaching