Hefollows beautiful women on social media
I’ve heard this before, as a coach we hear all sorts of things, this is one of the most common complaints that girls have, in this day and age of social media. With airbrushed pictures, airbrushed versions of a persons life, women are feeling more pressured than ever before to keep up, its heightening insecurities, mental health issues and causing strain within relationships.
Well I’m here to grant you some level of comfort in regards to all those Instagram models your significant others are following online.
Firstly, it goes without saying that the women in these pictures are usually running these accounts for business purposes, so they will take multiple pictures whilst on holidays so they can keep posting them at later dates in different outfits. No one is constantly on holiday. Secondly, they airbrush, Photoshop and filter their pictures to an almost unrecognisable level, so if you passed them on the street you wouldn’t even know it was them. Yes its creating unrealistic beauty standards, but please don’t compare yourself to someone that technically doesn’t exist.
Lastly, my main point is about whether you should still feel threatened by a woman who your guy follows on Instagram, who you may think is model good looking.
Initially when a man see’s a woman he finds attractive, the number one thing that he is thinking about is that “she hot”. He’s not having thoughts about a future with her, he’s not imagining kids with her, he is just going based off pure animalistic desire and lust. So do looks attract a man to you? Absolutely looks will definitely attract a man to you, HOWEVER, its good old fashioned personality and high value attitude that will make him put a ring on it.
This works both ways. Sometimes a man will have a woman in his life that is not necessarily “his type” he may enjoy hanging out with her and as time progresses he realises that in fact her personality is so bomb ass that he has to be with her. Men bond through time spent with you and fun activities and this is one of the main reasons that you see super-hot guys with average girl next door types. On top of all of this if the girl is also charming, a challenge, has a high value mind set and emotional control, he will be throwing a ring on it as fast as he can!
The same way that a guy can fall for a girl that is not his physical type, he can also be turned off by a girl that is his physical type. If she is someone who is hot but, chases him, is needy and naggy, she lacks emotional control and is a drag to hang out the lust fades real quick. A guy may want to sleep with a woman like this and keep her hanging around for this purpose but he will not go long term with this woman.
This is why focusing on appearances although important, shouldn’t be what you are working hard on. Work on your personality, confidence and self-worth, this is what will keep a man coming back for more and keep him around in the long run.
