
howyou could be driving him away…
Here are some examples of what you could be doing that could be driving the man you want away from you!
- Chasing and pursuing a guy. If you keep trying to please him, cooking meals for him from scratch, seduce him in bed, text and call him non-stop. Or even doing extra little things so he will like you more and not just being yourself then you are pursuing him and not even realising it! A lot of women will do this and then when he doesn’t do it back for them they are complaining, nagging, crying and guilt tripping him. I gave you so much, I did everything for you, you don’t love me, you don’t care about me and so on. What they don’t understand is that you cannot make the other person give. It is their choice. You can’t make the other person pursue it is their choice. If you are giving someone with the intention of getting back you are manipulating them. When you give with expectation it’s not giving it’s a manipulation. Instead if these women wanted a guy to give and treat them with value and respect they need to treat themselves with value and respect.
- Trying to convince him to want a relationship with you: pointing out all their friends in relationships, talking about babies and marriages, telling him that he needs to get married because of her age or even his age. Complaining about being in a relationship for so long and him not putting a ring on their finger. Dragging him to the jewellery store and even telling him that he will die lonely. All of this is a manipulation to try and trap a guy into a relationship or marriage. Again what they don’t realise is that he will not do what he doesn’t want to do! They cannot force him to get married or give them a relationship. I actually know of examples where the guy felt guilty and stayed in a relationship out of guilt, what he did next was begin cheating on her behind her back. Therefore if you want to get married or have a successful relationship you being the best version of yourself will lead you to that, not pressurising him for it. If the guy doesn’t give you what you think you deserve, you do not stay, nag, complain or manipulate, you leave…simple.
- Fighting over a guy: A lot of women mark their territory, they sleep with guys in order to hunt them down so he would have a relationship with her. Not only are these pure manipulation but also all these strategies do not work! All he will do is eat his cake and leave and then these girls will run after him trying to guilt trip him…. I gave you so much and you used me. They will also compete with an ex, if she finds out he is dating other women (in a non exclusive dating situation) she will try and make herself be better than the other girls, constantly obsessing over them and how much he might like them more.
Now I’m not trying to put women down but what I want you to understand is that behaving this way not only will make the guy leave you but that most importantly you are devaluating yourself. You are losing self-respect and dignity and when you behave like this people will take you for granted and they will walk all over you. Ladies you can have it all! But this is not the way to do it…take what a man gives you freely, if it is not good enough, move on and let him go instead of pushing for more from someone who doesn’t want to give. Know your value and only date and give relationships to those men who also know and appreciate it.







