I'msuccessful in everything but I cant keep a guy!
Do you find yourself in this same situation? You are smart, beautiful, talented, you have a great career you have your own place, you look amazing, you take pride in your appearance. You like to date men who are like you, successful, charming, who like pride in their appearance, however although you can attract these men initially, you are struggling to keep them long term and you can’t figure out why!
One of the main reasons that women find themselves in this scenario are because they often pursue men like they do their goals. They may not even realise they’re doing it but they absolutely are. They initiate as much as or more than he does, they agree to meet him last minute, they are ok with sleeping with him early as they are feeling the sexual attraction and don’t see the point in waiting, they also pay 50/50 and like to wear their heart on their sleeve.
Now for those of you who know about Greta’s high value, you will know why this is a terrible way of approaching a relationship. When a woman behaves like this, moves way to fast too soon, men will take advantage and leave. They become flaky, inconsistent, start making excuses for their poor behaviour, they vanish and pull away then reappear. They lose respect for you and especially for your time.
One of the main reasons that this happens is that a woman like this is going against a man’s natural instincts and his love need, by making him feel too secure when she pursues him. Men, unlike women need to be the ones who go after women, like a cheetah, prowling the savannah they love the thrill of the chase, when a woman is “caught” too soon the thrill ends, when she then also turns around and starts chasing back, his instinct is to turn around and run away!
Another major mistake is going out of your way to please him, when you start to do things, like rearranging your schedule just for him, or accepting last minute dates, you’re basically coming across as a woman who desperately needs a man and is too scared to lose him. He will start taking you for granted and will not be scared to lose you.
Reacting emotionally when he’s pushing your buttons or not giving you as much attention or time, shows him again how much you need him and makes him feel safe again. Let me reiterate “women need certainty” because of the estrogen in our bodies “men need uncertainty” and to be kept on the edge of their seat because they have testosterone in their body.
So what should you do? Go after your goals and ambitions in life! It’s important for a woman to go after her dreams in life, just don’t turn the man into your dream or goal! Don’t pursue a man, let him be the one who needs to come after you, charm you, impress you and make you feel amazing. Control your emotions and learn to be more logical in all situations. If you can master your emotions you can master anything!
A man should not be your main reasons for happiness. You need to find other things that make you happy that have nothing to do with him! you need to have hobbies and friends and family that you can enjoy when you are not with him, not only will this keep your mystery it will increase his attraction for you. Remember a man is just a cheery on top of your cake, not the whole cake.
