Isit a bread crumb?
In the 21C world of online dating, we are dealing with more games, manipulation and time wasting than ever before. The majority of people are dating online, they want something convenient, time effective and something that’s fits in with their hectic lifestyle.
However what they are not picking up on is that this “convenient” way of dating is breeding an army of flakes and people, especially men who breadcrumb, lead women on and keep them around in “relationships” that go absolutely nowhere.
You’ve probably heard the term before, “bread crumbing” the new word everyone is using in dating, but what does it actually mean and are you experiencing it?
Bread crumbing is the term used when someone is not that interested in you, but keeps you around anyway. Basically you turn into the plan B, or just someone they talk to get an ego stroke. They send you the occasional text here and there, arrange to meet up and never follow through.
I’m sure you’ve received the text before “hey” or “hey how are you” and when you say “I’m good how are you?” you get a simple “good thanks”. They don’t continue the conversation, they hardly ask any questions, in fact it feels like you are leading the conversation and putting in more effort than him.
Check your messages, who texts more? Whose messages are longer? Who asks to meet up and cancels? Who asks more questions about the other person? If he texts less, cancels, texts shorter and doesn’t ask questions to get to know you, you are wasting your time. No matter how hot he is, how slick, charming, rich etc, it doesn’t matter as he is bread crumbing you.
As ladies we are guilty of this as well, keeping a guy around because we like the attention but we know secretly he’s in our friend zone. Bread crumbing from guy is kind of the same thing, they text you every couple of days or even weeks or months later, set up a date and then never follow through with it, because they are just not that interested in you.
The difference between a man who is breadcrumbing you or just playing games is all in his actions. If he is not that interested in you and is in fact just breadcrumbing you then he will give you talk but not follow through with any actions. If he is interested in you but is just playing games, he might miss the odd text here and there or pull away or play a power game, but his actions will be more forthcoming.
A relationship is about quality over quantity. It’s not about measuring or counting the number of times a man texts you in the day or week, or how much attention he gave you that day even if it’s negative. A lot of women obsess over this, even when the guy is putting forward no actions!
If a man is constantly texting you and giving you attention over the phone but you have never met his family or friends and he is not spending time with you face to face, he’s less interested in you than the man who doesn’t text as much but always shows up on the dates, always takes you out, and introduces you to the people that he cares about.
Therefore ladies be clear on what bread crumbing is and what it is not. Before you start throwing such terms around, be clearer on what it means.
