Hedidnt give me closure

One of the most difficult things that anyone can go through during their romantic journey is a break up. It’s especially not easy when you are the one being broken up with. Women love security and safety, its one of our main love needs, so when we have the rug pulled from under us it can be extremely difficult. You’re lost and confused, you want to know what happened, what you did wrong if anything at all, so you can close the book on this chapter of your life and move on or so you can hopefully get another chance with the man you lost.

This is typical for most women going through heartbreak or just the end of a relationship; we want closure so we can move on and never look back or to find out what we did wrong so we can fix those mistakes and hopefully show our lost boo that we have changed so he will want us back.

Men however are the opposite. Men don’t want closure because the majority of them come back, or they stick you on their reserve team and rotate you. What do I mean by rotate exactly? Let me explain, when you mess up (behave low value) or he’s into you but not that into you, he doesn’t see you as future long term potential but doesn’t want to let you go just in case, he will keep you around, maybe even vanish for a bit and rotate to another woman and then maybe another one after that even possibly add in two more and then eventually come back round to you. It doesn’t make sense for them to close this door and the potential for free sex, favours and ego strokes by leaving for good with no chance of returning.

It sucks and it may not be fair for them to leave the door open like this so he can walk back in whenever he wants but unfortunately this is just the way men think.

so should you ask for closure in order to move on? NO. there is no need to ask a guy “why are you breaking up with me, please explain” you promised me this that that and the other. First of all, it all makes you look weak! it shows that you care too much about him, which kind of makes him feel sorry for you instead of respecting you. Men don’t stay with women they feel sorry for long term.

Additionally 90% of the time he will not tell you the real reason for the break up and if he will tell you a reason a lot of time it’s actually a lie.

so now that you know all of this, is there really any point in you getting closure? Nope not really.

When a man leaves, get your own closure, realise that a guy who is willing to let you go, risk losing you to another guy or to his own bad behaviour is not worthy of your tears, sadness and heartbreak. He didn’t care about you when he left so you shouldn’t care about him being gone. Indulge in your passions, concentrate on self-love and spreading love in other places, like an animal shelter, charity or community project and keep yourself moving forward, don’t waste time on looking back.

Sunsu Bee / February 27th, 2021 / Life Coaching