He asked me to be his girlfriend after one month, should I agree?

HeHe asked me to be his girlfriend after one month, should I agree?

In the world we know it in the 21st Century, we are busy, we dont have time, we want everything to happen as soon as possible, ad hoc. we want to be successful quick, have the item we ordered delivered quick, meet people quick, get into a relationship quick, have children and lives happily ever after, but is that really the correct way to do things? Should be rush into relationships just because everything feels good right now?

We are seeing more and more how men are dating women for short periods of time and after around a months, sometimes even a week! they ask her to be his girlfriend. We are also seeing a trend of women who are accepting these proposals and then seeing the good behaviour that they had in the beginning be replaced by increasingly bad behaviour, so why does this happen? And is one month too soon?

Let me explain a bit more. When a man starts dating a woman he finds attractive (because in the start that’s all it is, attraction) he will want to do everything he can to make her like him. he wants you to feel like he is an amazing guy, super relationship material (even though he may not even want that) and the perfect boyfriend material. As women we are overwhelmed by their attention, especially if we are not used to good treatment from a man, and start to believe all these things about him, we also have in our minds more often that not the “rush in” mentality or a “biological clock” so we get swept off our feet, and when he asks you to be his girlfriend we think this is great! This seems perfect why not make it official.

The problem is, this man is not yet in love with you, he has not bonded enough with you yet and therefore when he feels like he’s got you hes more likely to get fed up and want to leave or cause problems so you will leave quickly. you and him are infatuated with a fantasy of each other, the reality is usually very different.

Men often also rush relationships because they know that women feel more secure in relationships, are more likely to let down their guard and give him what her wants, whether that be sex, to cook for him or do him other favours, a woman is more likely to do that if she is his girlfriend.

This is why a woman needs to make sure that she really gets to know someone before she agrees to a relationship. She needs to gauge his intentions, check his personality and see if he meets all the standards she has set for herself consistently and not just over a short period of time.. Anyone can be on their best behaviour for a month or a few months, but players, users and men with personality problems like controlling behaviour cant hide it forever.

This is why it is probably better to take your time, when a man asks you to be his girlfriend before you have had a chance to properly know each other, be confident and tell him you would like to take things slow and see what happens whilst you both enjoy getting to know each other. If hes genuinely into you and a great guy, the girlfriend offer will stand a while from now!

Sunsu Bee / November 20th, 2020 / Life Coaching