HeHe was disrespectful what shall I do?
Men want a woman who respects and values herself, not someone he can walk all over. A woman who has boundaries demonstrates to him that she respects herself, and as a result she will automatically gain a man’s respect aswell.
Notice I used the word, gains his respect, not necessarily he will like you very much for putting down that boundary, but that’s not the point, even though at the moment you put the boundary down he’s annoyed with you, eventually over time you will gain more and more respect and that will in turn make him fall in love with you, which is more important anyway!
In addition to boundaries when a woman shows she can control her emotions, it shows a man that she does not have time to deal with being disrespected by him.
So, when you are in a situation where he has said something that upsets you, it is best to acknowledge it. Examples of what you could say to acknowledge the situation would be: “I did not appreciate that”, “Excuse me?” or “That crossed a line”.
Keep what you say short and change the subject after you said it. When you make it apparent that you don’t tolerate being disrespected yet you don’t nag about it (as you kept it short and direct) he will gain more respect for you and start thinking of ways not to lose you. However there are situations where a man may disrespect you, you may tell him “that crosses a line, don’t talk to me like that” and he may carry on doing it, become defensive, angry and become even more disrespectful. So what do you do in a situation like this?
A lot of women in these scenarios will start to become defensive, begin yelling, accusing and get pulled into an argument, but what you have to understand is that no one wins in a argument, in fact 99.9% of the time you wont be able to convince the other person of your position and it will end up with you both going to bed angry.
The only way you can win your power, make your point and put down a strong boundary is, after you have said “don’t talk to me this way” and he carries on, you LEAVE. Leave the room, leave the situation, stop talking to him until he calms down, let him understand that he will not get any attention from you until he is behaving like this. Only reward your attention to good behaviour not negative behaviour.
This way he knows if he wants to spend time with you he better be kind.
The key in here is do not go crazy by crying being upset or nagging. Make sure to control your emotions, and show him with your actions how to respect you by simply leaving the situation. Because you are a Woman Of High Value and have better things to do than spend time with someone who is disrespecting you.
Emotional control is your best friend, just remember, a moment of restraint in a moment of anger can save a thousand moments of regret.
