
Whatdoes he find most attractive about you?
The answer is simple; YOU WHEN YOU ARE BEING YOURSELF
But! You are probably asking, I am always myself on dates but I just cant seem to keep a man interested in me or maintain a relationship!
My answer to that is also simple: YOU ARE NOT BEING YOURSELF
But how can that be?
Let me explain:
During the first steps of the relationship when the girl is still getting to know the guy, she talks to him about her ambitions, her goals. She tells him her opinion on different topics, just like she would do with anyone else. You are not in love with him, you are not trying to impress him and you have not put him on a pedestal.
All of this means that you are being the most genuine truest version of yourself, and guess what if you both have chemistry, common interests and attraction for each other he will definitely want to see you again.
So what happens along this journey that makes you stop behaving like yourself and makes him lose interest in you?

Now a man may lose interest in you because he realised you don’t have as much chemistry or in common as he originally thought or he more often than not you have changed and youre not being yourself anymore and you haven’t even realised it!
So why does this happen?
Well, after a while, you really start liking the guy, you start treating him as if he is the most important person in your life and your only real source of happiness, withouit him you are sad and with him you are over the moon. Because of this you do not speak your mind as much as you used to, you start agreeing with him more than usual all in an effort to please him and not “rock the boat”. Since you like the guy so much you end up being scared that he might leave you and you try to be perfect for him more or less agreeing with him on everything he is saying, letting him cancel dates, letting him show up late and end dates early. Even letting him be rude and nasty to you. In your mind you are thinking it will make him appreciate you more, sadly this is doing the complete opposite.
The fact is girls, guys will like you more for speaking your mind even if they don’t agree with you. They will respect you more if you aren’t afraid to say what you think or to tell him your opinion. And through this, you will grow more in your relationship.
Just imagine that the person you were dating would always agree with you, order the same food as you, never have a different opinion. Don’t you think that would just be boring, well you are right it would!
Now that we have mentioned Dating and food, let’s take a look at this scenario.

Let’s say you have been dating a guy for a while now. You really like him and have a date at a restaurant. He picks up the menu and decides on what he wants to eat. When you are asked what you would like to eat you simply reply with, I’ll take whatever you are having”
This is one of the simplest scenarios yet extremely important. By making simple decisions like picking out what you would like to eat, or by picking out a movie that you would like to watch at the cinema, you show the guy that you have your own opinion and know what you want.
You are basically being yourself, and are not making any adjustments simply because you like the guy.
This ladies has to be done from the start of the relationship and never changed! From going to a restaurant to going on vacation, just be yourself and voice your opinion, your man will love you for that. Don’t let your fear of losing a man make you change yourself to keep him around, he will either stay, take you for granted and eventually cheat on you or he will leave you because you are the not girl he fell for originally.
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